Having sex with your ex in a dream may simply reflect your ex’s attempt to win you over again, the state of your heart, as you might be missing your ex, or you desire an aspect of that relationship that is lacking in your current relationship. Perhaps, you have not yet settled your affairs with him/ her.
Most often dreams of having sex with your ex reflect your desire for a certain aspect of that relationship that is lacking in your current relationship. Let me give you my own example. I used to dream of making love to my ex, however, in real life I had never touched her. It was a pure relationship- in terms of maintaining sexual boundaries- that I ever had.
In my waking life, I was in a relationship. However, things were not working as previously, as we had gone overboard and broken some sexual boundaries even though we never fornicated. I was desiring that state of purity I had previously with my ex unlike in the current relationship in which I was struggling. This is the message my dream was communicating.
A certain lady asked me on my other YouTube channel, what it meant to see yourself having sex with your ex in a dream. And this was her question.
What does it mean to dream about having sex with your Ex-husband, and I usually enjoy it very well, but I separated with him six years ago and I hate him but I usually repeat it several times?
This was my reply to her.
You say you hate him, but in your heart, you still love him dearly, you are only finding it difficult to forgive him. The sex in your dreams is a reminder of those good old days, that your heart yarn for.
As we can see from this example, having sex with your ex in a dream may reflect your desire for that relationship. This lady does not hate her ex-husband as she claims, she is only bitter that things never worked out as they expected, resulting in resentment. Not all dreams are evil, sometimes you need to search your heart to find out their meaning.
We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother.
1 John 4:19-21
Your ex forcing you to have sex with him in a dream.
Seeing your ex forcing you to have sex with him in a dream simply reflects your ex’s attempt to win you over again. He or she is trying their best to resolve your relationship issues to the extent that it seems he or she is forcing things to happen when you are not willing to buy into their idea.
Another lady asked me on my other website joshuamwangangi.com, what it meant to see your ex forcing you to have sex with him in a dream, and this was her question.
Hi pastor, what does it mean for your ex to forcefully have sex with you in a dream? I and him are not on talking terms, I detest every sight of him and even hearing of his name pissed me up, I wonder how I could have sex with someone I don’t want to set eyes on, thanks sir for helping out.
This was my reply to her question.
First of all, your heart is not right, you are carrying so much hate that if unchecked, will eventually poison your soul. The Bible emphasizes that we guard our hearts (proverbs 4:23). Guard it against bitterness and hatred. The fact that things never worked out between the two of you is not an excuse to hate your ex. This can open doors for all kinds of demonic attacks, so beware.
The dream simply reflects your ex’s attempt to win you over again, but you are not willing to engage in the relationship anymore, which is okay. The sex in this dream has nothing to do with spiritual spouses. I would suggest you work on your salvation with fear and trembling honoring God in every aspect of it. It is okay to quit a relationship, however, don’t conceive hate in your heart, it doesn’t help you to heal. May The good LORD help and bless you as you purpose to seek His righteousness
We know that we have passed out of death into life because we love the brothers. Whoever does not love abides in death. Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him. 1 John 3:14-15